Consequences of a Moral Tumble – by Randy Alkhorn
When playing with the thought of an affair, these are the effects your actions might have:
- Grieving the Lord who redeemed me.
- Dragging His sacred name into the mud.
- One day having to look Jesus, the Righteous Judge, in the face and give an account of my actions.
- Following in the footsteps of people whose immorality forfeited their ministries and caused me to shudder.
- Inflicting untold hurt on my loyal wife and best friend.
- Losing my wife’s respect and trust.
- Hurting my beloved children.
- Destroying my example and credibility with my children and nullifying both present and future efforts to teach them to obey God. i.e. “Why should I listen to a man who betrayed Mom and us?”
- If my blindness should continue or my wife unable to forgive, perhaps losing my wife and my children forever.
- Causing shame to my family. i.e. “Why isn’t Daddy at church anymore?”
- Losing self respect.
- Creating a form of guilt awfully hard to shake. Even though God would forgive me, would I forgive myself?
- Forming memories and flashbacks that could plague future intimacy with my wife.
- Wasting years of ministry experience for a long time, maybe even permanently.
- Forfeiting the effect of years of witnessing to others, reinforcing distrust for Christians.
- Undermining the faithful example and hard work of other Christians in our community.
- Bringing great pleasure to Satan, the enemy of God and all that is good.
- Heaping judgment and endless difficulty on the person with whom I committed adultery.
- Possibly bearing the physical consequences of diseases, such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and AIDS. Perhaps infecting my wife, or in the case of AIDS, causing her death.
- Bringing shame to fellow church members and the pastor.
- Possibly causing pregnancy with personal and financial implications, including a lifelong reminder of my sin.
- Causing shame and hurt to friends, especially to those that I led to Christ and discipled.
- Invoking shame and lifelong embarrassment to myself.
Job 31:1-12 “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid? For what portion of God is there from above? and what inheritance of the Almighty from on high? Is not destruction to the wicked? and a strange punishment to the workers of iniquity? Doth not he see my ways, and count all my steps? If I have walked with vanity, or if my foot hath hasted to deceit; Let me be weighed in an even balance that God may know mine integrity. If my step hath turned out of the way, and mine heart walked after mine eyes, and if any blot hath cleaved to mine hands; Then let me sow, and let another eat; yea, let my offspring be rooted out. If mine heart have been deceived by a woman, or if I have laid wait at my neighbour’s door; Then let my wife grind unto another, and let others bow down upon her. For this is an heinous crime; yea, it is an iniquity to be punished by the judges. For it is a fire that consumeth to destruction, and would root out all mine increase.”
Ecc 7:26 “And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.”